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There are no women forced to sell themselves to a man, to a foreigner, to a tourist. Those who do so do it on their own, voluntarily, and without any need for it. We can say that they are highly educated hookers and quite healthy, because we are the country with the lowest numbers of AIDS cases…Therefore, there is truly no prostitution healthier than Cuba’s”.
- Fidel Castro in a speech to the Cuban National Assembly, 1992.
Since the early years of the Cuban revolution, the government claimed as one of its shining achievements the elimination of prostitution. In reality of course, it lingered on; but through the provision of job opportunities and training for former prostitutes, the revolution did go a substantial way to eliminating the sex trade relative to its documented abundance during the pre-revolutionary era.
Spending time in Cuba in 2011, one cannot but be alarmed by the frequency one notices young Cubans, often no more than 14 or 15 years old, fraternising with European and Canadian tourists of a certain age. Disturbingly, this hustling or "jineterismo" of foreigners often camouflages a more basic sex-for-cash transaction.
Some of these "relationships" turn into longer-lasting affairs, going all the way from the bedroom to the Consultaria Juridica (the Cuban Registry Office). Back in Britain, a quick internet search is all it takes to find the sprawling Internet forums, filled with those who have had their hearts broken by Cuban spouses. A frequent poster on one of the largest sites, a Canadian based web-forum called Cuba Amor, described to me how he fell for a Cuban woman only to have his heart broken five years down the line. “What you have to understand is that when a Cuban gets involved with a foreigner he/she will first and foremost see it as an opportunity to leave Cuba and make life better for themselves and their family in Cuba…I have some great friends in Cuba, people who have never done me wrong, but even they will tell you the same”.

Tonight I am in Havana, and as I sip my weak Havana Club Mojito (Bacardi moved out long ago), I'm surrounded by budding Western sugar daddies, footing the bar-tab and dolling out spending money to their Cuban "girlfriends". The latter for their part appear to be dressed as caricatures of what they think capitalism might look like - all smutty disco garb and gold chains.
Many middle-aged western men, and increasingly women, are travelling to destinations such as Cuba in search of affordable liasons with exotic, dark-skinned young men and women. Jeannette Belliveau, author of the book Romance On The Road, says that since the 1990s, hundreds of thousands of western women have had affairs with much younger foreign men in places including Cuba, Jamaica and Gambia. "These are respectable women. Not all of them are unwitting victims to these sexual conmen", she says. "I have spoken to many women who fly to the Gambia or Jamaica specifically for the purpose of recreational sex".
In a play called Stuff, Latina artists Coco Fusco and Nao Bustamante dramatised the way in which first-world travellers have taken to viewing their third-world counterparts as exotic products there to be “consumed”. Cuba, so long discouraging of tourism, today actively welcomes those from the capitalist countries out of economic necessity; and the line between promotion of the country as a holiday destination and as a haven for sex tourists has become increasingly blurred. Cuban tourist materials in the 1990s would often picture scantily clad women fraternising with first-world tourists (a taste of what to expect should one visit, perhaps?);and author Michael Clancy, in his book, The Globalization of Sex Tourism and Cuba, remarked that the Cuban government's attitude towards the “consumers” of this “profession” was "to send a message to the global sex tourist community that Cuba was open for business”.
The Cuban Federation of Communist Women predictably tries to downplay the issue, arguing that “jineteras” - a term used to denote everything from flat-out prostitution to a “friendship” struck-up for material gain - engage in sex work simply out of materialistic impulse and a desire for luxury items, with no mention of Cuba’s economic failure playing it’s part.
The government’s response on the street has been to veer erratically between toleration and repression. Many young girls are stopped by the police when accompanied by a foreign tourist and asked to produce their identity cards; should the police discover that the girl in question has been stopped with another tourist at a different time, she will be arrested; the first arrest as a warning, subsequent arrests resulting in a possible prison sentence. This policy, however, is accompanied by one of toleration for those who solicit for prostitutes, reminiscent of the traditional harshness towards women involved in this type of interaction throughout the world.
Young Cubans are not the only victims in all of this. Nor is the dynamic simply one of westerners travelling to poorer countries in order to exploit the economic position of the locals. As David from Cuba Amor put it to me: “I’ve spent thousands of dollars on trips to Cuba, gifts for my ex-wife’s family and getting married. Since then I’ve been through hell. It’s hard to think you have this life, and then all of a sudden — was it a lie? You’re struggling because it wasn’t real. But I survived. It was hard, but it didn’t kill me”.
While Western holidayers continue flocking to Cuba, so stories of broken hearts and financial ruin go on dominating the internet forums at Cuba Amor, with several new posters joining every week. David has decided not to return to Cuba since his divorce in 2010, due in part to too many painful memories. “It’s just the casual deceit of it all. You understand why it can happen, because the people there are poor, but that doesn’t stop it hurting”.
Back in Havana, a newly-wed tourist/Cubana couple are entering the lobby of the Hotel National as I saunter into the bar for a pre-lunch drink. Despite the chaotic manner in which they make their entrance (the bride’s dress appears to snag on the revolving door on the way in), they look a picture of happiness. I managed to catch the groom and offer him my congratulations later that afternoon, as he came into the bar. He was a Canadian engineer, and met his wife, 25 years his junior, while she was working as a waitress in the resort of Varadero. “I’ve been very careful”, he told me, “but at the same time, I’m getting on for 50; I’ve got to take the risk. It’s now or never”.
It was at this point that I thought about warning my companion that love in Cuba is a game where the stakes are high and the house often wins, if you can forgive the dreadful metaphor. Instead though, I decided to slip back to the crowded bar and observe the happy couple from a distance. My flight was in four hours, and I was about to order another drink when I noticed a Cuban girl of around 18 or 19 making her way towards me. Better for everybody, I thought, if I saved the next one for the flight home.

*In 1995, Italian travel magazine Viaggiare awarded Cuba five stars for its “general erotic level”, calling it a “paradise of sexual tourism”.
I hear what you're saying about broken hearts etc. but think we need to be a bit careful taking at face-value the statements of the post-divorce Western men - who says these women left them because all they wanted was access to the West/cash, except them? Maybe they turned out to be awful partners (y'know, the kind of person who goes to Cuba to trade off his relative wealth to snare a young attractive woman then slags her off when she leaves him...?).
ReplyDeleteI'm sure it happens, but I'd be interested to hear from the (less privileged, far less able to speak out) Cuban women who've married or dated Western men. And maybe the Cuban girl just wanted to talk to you; I'd be careful of writing like you assume (although I'm sure you don't) that because this stuff goes on, all Cuban women of a certain look/age are to be avoided when in Cuba. Could have just said you weren't interested, maybe talked to her?
Interesting post, I'm just wary of the language of victimhood around (relatively) rich and powerful men, which after all can end up backing the actions of the Cuban state like stopping Cuban women with foreign men etc.
my boyfriend here in the states recently broke up with me after travling to cuba several times,telling me he now has a "girlfriend " in cuba, he is fortunate or " unfortunate" enough financialy to be able to travel there often, now I know why he never wanted to share that "beatiful" country with me...he is 54 yrs old . and very handsome and financialy secure, I am 50 + and VERY attractive for my age. go figure?still crying over him and I now HATE Cuba!
DeleteStupid u! Just do the same dumb ass! Lol
DeleteThere are in fact two types, and I think it's better to seperate the two. One is the sex tourist - mostly men, but increasingly women. Two is those who are in relationships with Cubans - this is mostly women, by I think I read about a 1/5, compared to men.
ReplyDeleteI hear what you're saying. Of course there are lots of examples of western spouses treating their Cuban spouses poorly, being abusive etc. However, around 90% of the marriages between Cubans and Europeans/Canadians end in divorce withing three years of the spouse being in their new country, indicating something more than simply abusive western women.
I understand your point about the people at Cuba Amor vs voiceless Cubans, however, I'm relaying this as someone who has been to Cuba many, many times, and I'm not just using what I read on Cuba Amor to paint the picture.
There is very much a culture in Cuba of marrying to get out of the country. It sounds almost shocking for me to generalise in that way; but it's easier to understand the dynamic by examining how bad the situation in Cuba actually is. With the descent into poverty of many people since '92 has come an attitude that increasingly sees it as normal to marry foreigners to leave the country - it's the lesser of two evils, frankly.
This is not simply what foreigners say; all my Cuban friends are telling me this, and almost all doing the same themselves. Not all, of course; but it's seen as normal and not 'judged' by other Cubans.
It's fucking awful, quite frankly, and it's hard to comprehend sometimes because we live in relative affluence. The desire to leave overwhelms, in most cases, concern for the feelings of the sponsor. This is what poverty does to people.
Re the victimhood thing: like I said, I think you're right with regard to sex tourists, they are of course exploiting the poverty of their hosts. Those conned by marriage fraud, though, I would label victims, both men and woman, regarless of their relative wealth. We can explain why people do this to westerners - the poverty, repression etc - but it's still a cruel and callous thing to do to a person, screwing with their emotions and their lives etc, even if, from their point of view, it's almost understandable.
In this, I believe, Cuba is rather like the Philippines, marrying to escape and to assist the family. While I have known many happy American-Filipina marriages, I have also known quite a few ending in disaster. One of the happiest such marriages was of an American Marine to a Filipina who had been taken and "sold" to a bar by her father, who had too many kids at home. The Marine rescued her from the bar-girl scene and, since she had been abandoned, sold into sex slavery by her family as it were, she felt no need to support them so there was no strain on the marital finances.
DeleteMyself, I stuck to the same Midwestern, corn-fed farm girl I married when we were both just out of high school. Been a nice ride.
Sounds like a horrible story (the story of the Filipina, that is). I think there's quite a similar story in most parts of the world where the contrast of extreme poverty exists alongside a significant tourist industry.
DeleteThanks for commenting.
I am a Cuban male, married to a Cuban lady for 10+ years now, and both living currently in Canada.
DeleteI would like to highlight something that I have seen missing on every post that I have read about the topic of Cuban+foreigner marriages.
Relationships in Cuba (among Cubans) are in general a lot more "flexible" than in north-america. It is very uncommon in Cuba for marriages to last more than 3-5 years. It has been like this for a very long time, and I do not see why this should be any different with Cuban+foreigners couples.
Hey. Thanks for the comment. I agree that that is also probably a factor in why so many of these relationships break down. I imagine, as a Cuba though, that you've come across your fare share of scam relationships?
DeleteI could, perhaps, have used an example of a woman from Cuba Amor who had fallen victim to marriage fraud, rather than a man, as most of the victims are women.
ReplyDeleteYou're a cunt for allowing to have this cross posted at HP shithole. Doing so basically makes you a whore for finance capital.
ReplyDeleteIsn't there a difference between "a culture in Cuba of marrying to get out of the country" and slipping into language that suggests not only that this is some awful emotional crime (I fail to sympathise as much as you do with the men involved, to be frank), but that all Cuban women should be treated with suspicion over this?
ReplyDeleteWoe betide the Cuban who falls in love with a Westerner if this is the prevailing attitude...
I'm still uncomfortable with this idea that the desire to leave Cuba 'overwhelms' feelings for the 'sponsor'. How are we ever in a position to know what goes on between two people? Especially when one gets a hell of a lot more opportunity to complain than the other? Most things are a lot more complicated than callous calculating (largely) women with naive, emotionally insecure (mostly) men.
Also question the decision to cross post this, on a difficult topic concerning gender, sexuality and power, to Harry's Place...
James,
ReplyDeleteI hope you were passing thru the Hotel National? Not staying there?
Was there in the early 1990s and I think I popped into it, if it is the really prestigious one where normal Cubans were, er, discourage from entering? (You'll have to correct me on that).
That's being the case, I saw it too, 20 years back in the bar, fat north Americans and small Cuban girls chatting and what have you...all very sad...
As Cuban, what I truly hate of posts like this one is the generalization approach. The author wants to give the impression that every Cuban is a male or female hooker. I arrived to Canada a few months ago, I was accepted in the “skilled worker” program together with my Cuban wife, and I know about many, many other Cuban couples and Cuban singles who have done the same, either to Canada or to other countries by different means.
ReplyDeleteI find this kind of post misleading and offensive.
Sofie,
ReplyDeleteOf course, not all of these relationships are fraudulent, but there is a certain trend apparent; and simply because many of the victims are westerners and wealthy relative to their Cuban spouses does not make then in any way fair game. You say you fail to sympathise with the men involved, yet most of those conned by marriage fraud are women. Also, I don't really see why you would fail to sympathise with those conned and emotionally manipulated by others, simply because they are men. Like I said, you have to seperate the sex tourists from those in relationships/marriages. They are not the same people.
"Woe betide the Cuban who falls in love with a Westerner if this is the prevailing attitude..."
Every one of these relationships should be viewed on its individual merits. That being said, you cannot ignore the context within which these relationships take place.
The desire to leave Cuba leads many Cubans to behave in this way. They are driven to it by the situation in Cuba. We are in a position to know what goes on because almost all of the marriages break down once the Cuban spouse receives the permanent residency visa in the host's country. You've also got it the wrong way around - like I said, it's mostly Western women - by about 5/1 - who are falling for this; although I fail to see why if it happens to men we should simply shrug our shoulders.
You can't ignore the structures that lead people to behave in this way. Immigration controls mean that the only way for Cubans to leave most often is via marriage; that combined with the poverty in Cuba is a pretty bloody strong incentive to go. It's easy for us to sit in a wealthy liberal democracy and say "people wouldn't do that to other people etc", but that completely ignores how a person's environment conditions their behaviour.
Harry's Place is the only large, center left or left blog that would cross post a topic like this.
"The author wants to give the impression that every Cuban is a male or female hooker"
ReplyDeleteNot at all. I don't think that. I do think however that many Cubans are seeking to leave the country by any means necessary. Do you agree with me there?
Simply because some of the victims of marriage fraud are western, relatively affluent men (most are women, if that really makes a difference), I still feel for them. Nobody deserves to be treated in this way.
ReplyDeleteDon't view it as a judgement on Cubans, view it as a judgement on poverty.
ReplyDeleteHi Modernity,
ReplyDeleteI wasn't staying there, no. Cubans are in fact allowed in there now, since 2008, I think, along with all the other hotels.
Hope you're keeping well.
James,
ReplyDeleteI am not too bad.
I think that poverty is MUCH worse in other parts of Latin America.
Not saying there isn't a problem in Cuba, but it didn't seem so acute and I did go around a fair bit.
There is, or was, still a class divide, that was obvious even in the 1990s, possibly offset by State provision which didn't exist in so many parts of Latin America.
I think also you have to factor in that Cubans, in my experience, have had greater access to education and medical services than other relative countries, ie. if you are very poor in Haiti or Colombia you won't get ANY quality education or medical help.
There is a much wider context to these issues and how they are viewed locally or on a country basis.
I totally agree with regards the state of much of the rest of Latin America and the Caribbean. I tend to focus on Cuba more though as I am more familiar with the place - I've been there many times now - and because much of the left is still fairly soft on Cuba.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, there is much good that the revolution has done in Cuba. One of these days I will get round to writing an article on that.
you are a first class Sh*t head. You can thank Castro for that insult. Given to you in English by a Cuban who had to escape that God-forsaken country almost 30 years ago. The good the revolution has done? Go to Cuba and live like a Cuban (as in burn your American dollars) and then come back to this blog to tell me how its working out for you.
DeleteLong live the Revolution!! viva Raul Castro!!
ReplyDeleteThe Europeans and Westerners that go to Cuba to exploit the need of these young women and men (gay for pay) are bound to be hurt because they are practically forcing themselves on these needy Cubans. Cubans are no different than any other third world country whose people are starving. Their economy is laughable, they have no means of bettering themselves and they have families to support and a desire to escape from Cuba because it is the only way to achieve success and the expectations any human being has to fulfill their dreams. The users are not the deprive women and men of Cuba but the tourist that buy and use them like a disposable object or toilet for their own pleasure and then complain when the Cubans have a chance to be more than an object. Cubans have suffered the oppression of the government and now they must endure this same communist government selling them to the tourists, why not be concern about their plight instead of using your $$ to purchase their bodies, companionship of underage girls and the fulfillment of your deprave sexual dreams. Good for the Cubans that get to be the users too!
ReplyDeleteYou are missing the point somewhat. Because some tourists are sex tourists out to exploit Cubans does not mean that every foreigner who has a relationship with a Cuban is a sex tourist. You sound like you have a simplistic - Westerner bad/ third-worlder good mentality.
ReplyDeleteYes, there are lots of Westerners looking for cheap sex from desperate people in Cuba; but there are also plenty of unscrupulous Cubans out for a quick buck or an escape from Cuba no matter the havoc they wreak on the lives of their naive sponsors.
Low priced prostitutes in Cuba - Courtesy of the Cuban backwater socialist dictatorship.
ReplyDeleteCuba Prostitution Documentary Film
ReplyDeleteWhilst there are undoubtedly sex tourists, there are also a large number of men and women who travel to Cuba for a relaxing vacation only to get pounced upon by the jineteros. These are split up into those who are blatant whores, who will outright ask you whether you want to take them to your room. You run into these, possibly with their friend (a pimp) on the beaches of popular resorts such as Cayo Coco (especially so post the 2008 relaxation of restrictions).
ReplyDeleteBut then you get the more subtle ones. The ones who work in the hotels in Animación teams at the 4 and 5 star hotels. They will weasel their way into your life under the pretext of friendship. This is the narrow end of the wedge. They're smart, because they will have multiple yumas on the go at once, hence lots of experience and the charade will go on for months. Eventually they go in for the kill - a ticket out of the Cuba. Again, it may not be a direct "I love you and want to marry you". It will more likely be a "solution" to a "problem". If you refuse, expect to never hear from them again. This could be after 6 months or 5 years, they are patient.
Don't ever think they care about you. They couldn't care less. As long as you keep sending them gifts or money, they're happy. If they strike it even luckier and get the golden ticket, better still.
I haven't been to Cuba for a number of years, and I wouldn't expect to see many of the Cubans I knew if I ever went back. Almost every one of them is now living in either England, Canada or Spain (or married and waiting to leave). Many of them came on the back of a gullible tourist and have since divorced - I don't know if they now scrounge off of our benefits system, or if they're "working" as a "dance tutor" or a "DJ". Search Facebook for your Cuban "friend" and chances are they will be there, posing alongside a nice Audi in a Canadian suburb. They will likely have a few hundred friends, and post pointless crap all day (when they're not plotting the best way to get a divorce).
ReplyDeleteDon't give us the "poverty" line as it isn't always the case. Take the dancers in the plush hotels; they make more than enough to feed themselves and any illegitimate children (assuming they haven't had an abortion), and that's before tips. Clothing, jewellery, mobile phones, laptop computers - the tourists will give those, or just turn up with a suitcase full of it if it's a return visit. What doesn't fit they will sell on, making more money. Some of them are content to play things this way - live wealthy within Cuba, rather than trying to leave. Things fall apart when they get caught out by the police, or hotel management. At this point, when life is made too difficult for them, they will go round-robin, trying each of their lovers in an attempt to leave Cuba. As they will have a few on the go at any one time, the chances of success are pretty high.
For you deluded saps that actually believe your Cuban lover loves you, watch the movie Shirley Valentine. It's on the mark.
I feel so sorry for you, you have had such a bad luck. It is so sad that you have not met any good Cuban in your life.
DeleteYou know what? Non of my Cubans friends (in Cuba or abroad) fit your description, they are all hard workers, most of them with university degrees, and most of them speak at least one foreign language. By the way I am also Cuban, and I am 100% sure I do not fit your description. I worked very hard to get out of that country, with non one`s help, and I work very hard to get a good live outside.
Honestly, you cannot go to a beach without getting some sand on your feet. The same way you cannot go to hotels of extremely poor countries and expect to only meet happy people who just to be your friends. You are either too naive, or not too smart.
Thanks for commenting :)
ReplyDeleteIn a small Italian village a friend of mine has married a Cuban girl. They have two beautiful children and the girl is respected by everyone in the village for both her intelligence and dignity.
ReplyDeletePoeple travel to cuba for vacation. The laws in cuba regarding underage etc..is very clear and never seen anyone crossing it. Tourists get married there from girls 15 and up mainly to Italians and end up in Italy. Some divorce some don't. We have seen lots of succesful stories and the bad ones. The visa process now is more difficult to make sure the marriage last. There are tourists who send money to their girlfriends in Cuba to help them, not necesarily for relationship but to help someone from poor life and live in a better situation. Cuba is a great vacation place, and there are good people who live there.
ReplyDeletewell some men go there for an easy wife/hooker... like 50 year old men with 18 year old girls or younger... it's disgusting... and then they are surprised that she leaves him and it doesn't work? please...
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